As a parent, if there is something that you would not want to happen to your kids is them being bullied. However, in 2019 alone there are around 41.1% of kids in Indonesia that have been victims of bullying. Most of the time, the sign of them being bullied will not be very apparent. For that reason, today we would like to tell you how you can spot the sign of bullying and what you should do when your kids are bullied.
Signs of bullying
It is important to spot the signs of bullying so you know what you should do when your kids are bullied. These signs are sometimes really vague, but you might need to approach them when they show signs like below:
Reluctance to go to school
Usually, school is the place where bullying would happen. If your kids that used to look forward to school suddenly feel so reluctant, something has happened in school that makes them not want to go.
When your kids are bullied, usually they will be very nervous and anxious at the possibility of the bullying to continue the next day. Because of this, they will experience difficulty in falling asleep.
Avoidance of topic
If you feel that your kids are avoiding certain conversation topics, they might be having anxiety regarding those topics. If they avoid the topics of friendship at school, it is likely they are having trouble fitting in or they are being bullied.
What to do?
Those are only some of the signs of bullying you could find and look for in your kids. However, it still does not tell you what you should do when your kids are bullied. This time, let’s see what kind of actions you can take.
Listen to them
The first thing that you should do when your kids are bullied is to listen to them. Listen without being upset or angry, and tell your kids what they have been telling you as proof that you are listening. Then, ask them how they want you to act, so they would not feel left out.
Reassure your kids
Sometimes, your kids might think that them being bullied is because they brought it upon themselves. However, reassuring them is what you should do when your kids are bullied. You need to tell them that being bullied is not because they are weaker compared to the bully.
Help your kids get the bullying off their head
One of the best things that you should do when your kids are bullied is by not letting the bullying take over your kids’ life. Instead, help your kids to develop new skills in new areas. By doing so, your kids will feel more confident of themselves.
Most of the time, bullies do what they are doing because they simply would like to get a certain reaction or to assert their dominance. That is why, one of the best things that you should do when your kids are bullied is to build up their confidence so no one can make them doubt themselves. It is also important that you should not be explosive, because it will cause your kids to be more afraid instead.