As a parent, it’s only natural that we want the best for our kids. We might get them into an art course, language course, or even sport course that we think could bring the best out of them. However, this should not be the case according to Ki Hadjar Dewantara, a pioneer of Indonesian education.
According to Ki Hadjar, a child will grow according to their own path. He believes that as the child grows older, they will gather enough knowledge and will show an interest in a certain subject. Once a child has reached this stage, your duty as a parent is to support your kid’s passion wholeheartedly.
This time, we will give 4 strategies that you as a parent could use to show your support for your kid’s passion, and those are:
1. Try to think outside the box
Usually, when it comes to passion, parents tend to think of enrolling their kids for enrichment classes. However, this should not be the case. Your kids might be passionate in sports, writing, reading, or even cooking. All those things can be done from your home.
Let your child discover what gives them the most fun.
2. Don’t judge!
Sometimes parents tend to judge their child’s passion. Maybe they never meant to do so, but when they did, it actually hurts the child’s self-esteem! Usually this tends to happen when the parents’ passion doesn’t line up with the child’s.
It’s very important to detach what we find fun with what our children think is fun. After all, you are 2 different human beings. If what makes your kids passionate is not fun for you, at the very least you can support your kid’s passion. The important part is that you should not antagonize them for taking a different path from you.
3. Know what interest them
Sometimes your child might also take the same interest as their peers. It might be the same sport, or art activities, or music instrument. During that time, the competition for your child to succeed is really fierce and might cause anxiety for your child in the process.
When this happens, one way you can support your kid’s passion is by taking the time to know what it is that your child is really interested in. You can observe them as they do their activities and listen to what they aspire to be regarding their passion.
4. Nurture their optimism
When it comes to competition, your child might be feeling a great amount of pressure to perform better than anyone else. However, when they fail to present their best effort, they will feel dejected. When this happens, what you can do to support your kid’s passion is by nurturing optimism in them.
Let them know that setbacks happen, and it is up to your kids to see the setbacks as a stopping point or as a stepping stone so they can do better next time.
At the end of the day, your kid’s passion might be totally different from yours. And that’s okay! You don’t need to suddenly be the best on what your kid is interested in. Sometimes, what they need isn’t an expert, because most of the time all they need is parents that support them and stand by their side.